Monthly Archives: June 2013

Seeing the Greatness in Others

recognitionWe all like to hear praise, that we did a good job. It makes us feel good. As a team leader I pay attention to my team and what they are doing. I like to tell them when they are doing a good job, but compliments fade quickly and sometimes sounds so superficial. There is a difference between recognition and acknowledgement.

When we give a compliment, we are speaking about what the person has done…like, "You did a great job running your meeting". Acknowledgement goes deeper and has a more powerful impact on the person receiving it.

In Principle-Centered Coaching from Build it Big, they calls this ICU Acknowledgement as in (I see who you are!). This goes beyond the person’s action to recognize the qualities and characteristics that enable that person to accomplish what they did. It recognizes inner character-who they really are-and meets that person’s basic need to be “seen“. Seen as a person who has talent, value and ability.

Example:
Recognition: “You ran a good meeting yesterday”
Acknowledgement: “Pam, as I watched you run your team meeting, I saw your ability to deeply listen to your team. Your openness and patience allowed team members to speak honestly, which in turn helps them grow”.

When you look for positive qualities in your team rather than looking for problems to solve, that creates a shift in the interpersonal dynamic and establishes an environment of trust and mutual respect.

I find, more often than not, people are not aware of their own strengths and what they can accomplish. As team leader, it is my job to coach and come along side and build up my team by revealing their strengths, qualities and capabilities they display. Sometimes, it is the first time they have heard about these qualities and it builds their self-esteem and can empower them to keep learning, growing and doing their best.

It also helps us as leaders too. It is so amazing to watch someone light up as they recognize their own greatness and move forward with new enthusiasm to reach their full potential…not with empty compliments but truths that will empower. I just love that!

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Reference Build it Big by Direct Selling Women’s Alliance, Dearborn Trade Publishing page 128/129

Basics on pH

Seems acidic, but it is really alkalizing to the body

Seems acidic, but it is really alkalizing to the body

pH means…”potential of Hydrogen” It is a measure of the relative acidity or alkalinity of a solution. The pH scale runs from 0-14 Numbers below 7 are acid; numbers above 7 are alkaline. This is a logarithmic scale which is a scale of measurement that uses the logarithm of a physical quantity instead of the quantity itself. 5.0 is ten times more acid than 6.0; 4 is ten times more acid than 5; 9 is ten times more alkaline than 8 and so on. Think about the Richter Scale and how a small number change means a huge difference.

Our bodies are alkaline by design by function. Blood, lymph, extracellular fluid, cerebrospinal fluid, etc., should all be alkaline—except for the parietal cells in the stomach as they secrete hydrochloric acid. Cells may operate in alkaline environment, yet produce acid as a by-product of their activity. This acid is not damaging because it is natural to how our bodies work and it is a weak acid that can be eliminated by the lungs quite easily. There is another type of acid however that is stronger and is not so easily dealt with. This acid results from eating acid ash foods and it needs to be neutralized before it can be eliminated by the kidneys or it will damage tissue and cells as it exits our bodies…such a grand design by our wonderful creator!

You may be wondering, what is ash? I am thinking about the ash that is in a fireplace or what is left in the fire pit after a campfire—well, kind of…After food is broken down, absorbed through the small intestine and then metabolized, there is a small fraction that is not utilized, this is described as ash. The pH of this ash is not necessarily the same as the food that it comes from. A lemon, for instance, is a very acidic fruit with a pH of 2.5 and 3. Yet it leaves an alkaline ash of pH 9. Sugar tastes sweet and seems harmless enough, and although it does not leave an acid ash—the body does have to work fast to metabolize them, producing a surge of energy and with this energy also comes a lot of acid.

On the whole, fruits and vegetables leave an alkaline ash while most other foods (eggs, grains, animal protein, and dairy products) leave an acid ash.

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Happy Father’s Day!

Here's to you Dad!

Here’s to you Dad!

I just wanted to stop for a moment and say thank you to Our Heavenly Father for Dads, to say thank you to my Dad and all The Dads out there who make a difference in our lives.

If you are a Dad, thank you.

Remember…You may not think so at times, but many little and not so little eyes are watching what you do, ears are listening to what you say, feet are following the paths you forge. You are our example…thank you.

If you are reading this and your Dad is no longer on earth, I am sorry. I can relate and I wish you peace. If your Dad is still here, I hope you enjoy him. I know sometimes things happen that make that impossible…if that is the case, I wish you peace also.

I grew up in a home where my Mom and Dad stayed together. He worked hard everyday to keep us fed. We did not have much growing up, but we did have enough to eat, a warm bed and a good home. I was the only girl and who I am today is a reflection of him…partly because he showed me I could be myself and that I have value. I should aim high and not settle. I grew up in a time where a Dad’s word was true and what he said mattered and I listened. I cared if I did something that upset him and it bothered me if I felt like I let him down. No matter what, though, he loved me always. He taught me to respect my Mother because he did. I learned to drive a car because he took the time to teach me. He taught me that the choices I make today will effect my tomorrow, so I better be careful what I do.

His smile was broad and his sense of humor right on que. I haven’t quite mastered his brand of humor. The one thing I did not learn from my Dad is faith in God…well not until after he was gone did I see it. I learned faith in God from my Mom…I always thought my Dad kind of let my Mom believe for both of them. It wasn’t until his last few weeks on earth, that I saw his faith come alive…I am joyful to say that I got to teach him something (or you might say I was reiterating what Mom used to tell him) …how to embrace faith and believe for himself…and I will see him again…love and miss you Dad. Check out more blog posts at http://www.myfatherswellness.com

Reading Food labels webinar part 1 Tami Cole

Check out my latest webinar that I presented through The AIM Companies about the basics of how to read food nutrition labels. It lasts about an hour and is packed with tips to equip you to make healthier fodd purchases, plus a food ingredient comparison you may not believe! I worked hard on it, so I hope you enjoy it. Comment if you can please…thanks! Understanding Food Nutrition Labels Part 1 http://www.instantpresenter.com/WebConference/RecordingDefault.aspx?c_psrid=EA54D785894B
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How to Ask For What You Want

ASK for what YOU WANT

ASK for what YOU WANT

Once you have discovered what you want, now you need to know how to get it.

I found a few tips in Build it Big by Direct Selling Women’s Alliance where they reference a book called, The Aladdin Factor by Mark Victor Hanson.

Ask as if you EXPECT to get it. Ask with a positive expectation. Ask with an attitude that you have already been given it. Ask as if you expect to get a YES.

Assume you CAN. Don’t start with the assumption that you can’t get it. If you are going to assume, then assume you CAN get it, that your prospect will say YES. Never assume against yourself.

Ask someone who can help you get it. Qualify the person. “Who would I have to speak to, to get…?” “Who is authorized to make a decision about…?” What would have to happen for me to get…?”

Be clear and Specific. Vague requests produce vague results. Your requests need to be specific. When it comes to money, assk for a specific amount. When it comes to when you want something, don’t say “soon” or “whenever I get around to it.” Give a specific date and time. When it comes to a behavior, be specific about what you want from others.

Ask repeatedly. One of the most inportant princilpes of success is persistance-NOT GIVING UP. Whenever you ask others to participate in the fulfillment of your goals, some people are going to say No. They may have other prioritirs, commitments and reasons to not participate right now. It is not a reflection of you. Ask again at a later date or keep on finding new people to ask.

Reference Build it Big, by Direct Selling Women’s Alliance, Dearborn Trade Punblishing, page 264

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The Power of Choice

Will you allow challenges to make you BETTER or BITTER?

Will you allow challenges to make you BETTER or BITTER?

We all have to make choices in life. The right to make that choice is a gift we are all born with. Sometimes things happen in our lives that are out of our control and we may face disappointments, setbacks and detours off the path we wish to travel. When these speedbumps happen, we have a choice in how we respond…We must ask ourselves…will we allow the circumstances to make us bitter or better?

Will we allow ourselves to be bitter about what is happening to us, investing all our energy in complaining about things outside our control and looking at the worst…OR will we allow ourselves to be better, to take whatever comes our way and choose to use it to make us grow, to stretch us to be all we can be …to be an asset to society and a blessing to the people around us.

The choice that we make in these situations determines the person we will become and the results we will create.

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Building Bonds of Value

Team Building

Team Building

People notice everything you say & do and that includes your team members. Each one can be inflenced by your commitment, your goals and plans, your ability to follow through, and your willingness to help her/him succeed. All these things create value. A leaders job is to remove doubt and add value…create enough value and team members will want to stay. Making team members feel valued and important is vital.

When you measure the sucess of your team building efforts, it is not how many members you have or even how much money you make…it is about how many people you empower, how many lives you help change and how many people learn to see their full potential. These are THE results that are most rewarding.

I love it when a stranger becomes a friend…and I see it happening over and over as I grow my team of unique and amazing individuals!

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Reference: “Build it Big” by Direct Selling Women’s Alliance, Dearborn Trade Publishing, page 113

To coach is to serve, to serve is to succeed—AUTHENTICITY

PRINCIPLE # 5

PRINCIPLE # 5

The foundation of Principle-Centered Coaching is built on five core principles that present an image of the kind of coach I want to be.

By following these five principles found in “Build it Big” by Direct Selling Women’s Alliance, I strive to cultivate a supportive, safe environment in which my team will flourish. This is principle number FIVE.

The Principle of AUTHENTICITY: An AUTHENTIC leader is comfortable being herself (or himself) and does NOT put on appearances. Strive to be natural, genuine, and honest in your dealings with your team.

I would go a step further and say, “Be genuine and honest with everyone you come into contact with”.
Authenticity” is all about being real. Genuine, not an imitation. Guard your character. It is who you are when noone is looking…Be aligned with your core values. When you are noble and trustworthy, your team and others will respect and listen to you.

Authentic leadership is all about being the person you know in your heart that you are and NOT what others want you to be or what is popular in the world to be. Authentic leadership does not come from your title or from the size of your bank account. It comes from your very being and the person that you truly are. It is taking the previous 4 principles, TRUST, RESPECT, SERVICE, and INTEGRITY (and I add FAITH)…I believe this is our AUTHENTICITY.

“Authenticity is the alignment of head, mouth, heart, and feet – thinking, saying, feeling, and doing the same thing – consistently. This builds trust, and followers love leaders they can trust”. Lance Secretan

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Reference: “Build it Big” by Direct Selling Women’s Alliance, Dearborn Trade Publishing, page 140

To coach is to serve, to serve is to succeed—INTEGRITY

PRINCIPLE # 4

PRINCIPLE # 4

The foundation of Principle-Centered Coaching is built on five core principles that present an image of the kind of coach I want to be.

By following these five principles found in “Build it Big” by Direct Selling Women’s Alliance, I strive to cultivate a supportive, safe environment in which my team will flourish. This is principle number FOUR.

The Principle of INTEGRITY: Do you do what you say you will do? INTEGRITY is when our thoughts, words, and actions are the same AND we follow through with our commitments.

Principles 1, 2 and 3 will be lost if you do not follow through with what you say. Being true to my word is very inportant to me. INTEGRITY means doing what is right, and what is honorable…even if no one else is looking. INTEGRITY is my internal compass. As I build up my team through TRUST, treat them with RESPECT, and keep an attitude of SERVICE…If I am doing things right, hopefully I will inspire others to stay the course…even when things aren’t going quite as planned.

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Reference: “Build it Big” by Direct Selling Women’s Alliance, Dearborn Trade Publishing, page 97 & 140

To coach is to serve, to serve is to succeed—SERVICE

Principle # 3

Principle # 3

The foundation of Principle-Centered Coaching is built on five core principles that present an image of the kind of coach I want to be.

By following these five principles found in “Build it Big” by Direct Selling Women’s Alliance, I strive to cultivate a supportive, safe environment in which my team will flourish. This is principle number three.

The Principle of SERVICE: When we serve others through our actions, we express the essence of leadership. Bu helping others get what they want, we experience the joy of making a difference. This is a way of working with your team that opens your heart and expands your own capacity to lead in the spirit of service.

I strive to form a deeper connection with my team by my willingness to serve and support them. Service is an attitude and must be interwoven into our daily lives. It is backing up my words with actions.

I choose to live by the Golden Rule, “Do to others as I would have them do to me. To Bless and not impress. A servant mind means putting others first, to not be afraid to forge the path through my own toil & sweat so others may follow.

“We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give”. ~Winston Churchill

“Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking “What’s in it for me?” ~Brian Tracy

SERVICE says, “How can I help you?”

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Reference: “Build it Big” by Direct Selling Women’s Alliance, Dearborn Trade Publishing, page 140